Bottle or Breast?
So the big question when you’re pregnant is ‘how are you going to feed, bottle or breast?’
Before I begin, I am just going to say how ‘pro breastfeeding’ I am. If someone were to ask me if they should breast feed I would 110% say yes! I think it is the most beautiful, natural and amazing thing ever. I also wouldn’t normally do this kind of blog post, but as I have experienced it, I think if I can make someone feel better about their decision, then job done!
It was my plan throughout pregnancy to breastfeed Immy. I never really considered bottle feeding as an option. Don’t get me wrong, I never had an issue with the thought of doing it if breastfeeding didn’t work for us. But I was always going to breastfeed.
I was always surprised throughout pregnancy how little breastfeeding was talked about. I thought it would be all I heard about and that I would feel that it was the only option. So I would be lying if I said I wasn’t then shocked with how peoples attitudes changed when I decided to change to bottle feeding after trying hard to feed Immy myself and it not working out.
It takes some persistance and I understand it is not always easy to nail the art of breast feeding. Without making excuses if Immy was well when she was born and not so distressed I would of probably given it much more of a go. But as this was the case and once she finally took the bottle and started eating a healthy amount, we decided we wouldn’t mess her about and this was the direction we would take.
No one can prepare you for the emotions you feel when you have a new baby and it is different for everyone depending on their experience. Every one has the right to do what is best for themselves and their baby. I am a big believer in baby feeling what you feel. If you’re both happy what more really matters.
Professionals go on about how breastfeeding is brilliant bonding for you and baby. I agree. However, I disagree with those who say bottle feeding doesn’t allow you to bond with your baby. I feel no difference feeding Immy by bottle as when I was feeding her by breast. I also love watching Dan feed her seeing him bond with her the way I am able too.
I think our stay at hospital towards the end was trying because of our choice to bottle feed. Most of the midwives and staff were totally supportive. But the shift in some made all the difference. I think it is a shame that anyone can make a new family feel that way.
I have also found that I end up explaining myself every time someone asks if we are breast feeding or bottle feeding as though I am doing something naughty. This is not how you should feel as a new mum.
I believe I tried as much as I could. Attempting to get Immy too latch on when she was screaming and in distress was not very nice for either of us. When she eventually did latch on she wasn’t sure what too do next. When we were told she was poorly we continued to express which also wasn’t working well for me.
I truly think that any new mum is doing a great job and should never let anyone tell them any different. You choose what is best for you and your family. We are all different and that is okay.
I have now decided to ignore any negative comments or attitudes and concentrate on my little family. Treasuring every second as I am finding out quickly that time flies by!
Bottle feeding? Breast feeding? Either way you can do a great job.